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Usually even after the passing on of grandpa i kept on visiting my old friend to pass on the wisedom to me and as i have said from the beggining i am a keen listener to whatever i am told especially good stories that will uplift my spirit
while visiting my friend during my free time,he gave me lots of memorable quotes but there are two of the quotes that stuck in my mind, as we were talking he told me this(a king who have not encountered any problems in his kingdom has no history to tell)
in short he must have some sort of reference or history to tell in order to rule effectively.And (be keen on words you say)as the government has issued some people licenses to sell their words.When i asked him who these people were,he simply asked me what
do you think the lawyers sell or what do you get in a newspaper obviously its what is written in the paper that made you buy it,therefore he emphasised watch your words.

After running up and down for one year trying to get my paycheck,things started to open up on this part as i usually get my paycheck without fail every month.After some four years in empoyment i got married to my beautiful wife whom i loved and still love to date.
In our tradition or maybe in our african societies after the honeymoon maybe some six months or one year the wife is supposed to be pregnant so as to give her inlaws a grand child to play with and its at this point that she will be respected in the society but if this
is not to be in sometimes to come then mummurs will start,people will be asking among the couples who is not able to deliver why is it taking too long for them to get a child?there are some who will follow the woman and try to convince her to have an extra marital affair
just to ascertain who is not able to deliver is it the husband or the wife?some will follow the man and tell him look for another lady and try your luck you might get a child who will be your heir you cant just stay like this.

I am a victim of such because after happily marrying my wife for the last 20 years we have not been able to have a child of our own and we have been visiting specialists gynaecologists in town but to no success,i have accepted the situation as fate because everyone in
this world would like to have a good life, meaning everyone wants a good house,good car and healthy children and everything good in life,but the question is what if you dont get them what will you do.

I have been approached by people about this issue they keep saying how can you stay with a wife with no children?then i tell them think it this way,you have a daughter who is married to a good husband she stays in marriage for some years without having kids then her husband of so many years
decide to tell her lets call it quits, since you cant give me children, what do you think about this?they usually tell me they wont be happy for their daughters to be treated like shit,then i ask why do you want other peoples daughters to be treated like shit?surely at this point
you dont get any comment.

After soul searching i do ask myself what do people really want so that they stop looking for excuses,the marriage has taught me very hard lessons in life,it has taught me to be patient and also look things at a different angle,and be mindfull of others,Because theres a time i would look at
my worn out shoes and say that such and such a date i will buy another pair of shoes,but when i research deeply i find another human being without legs then i ask my self whats in the mind of that person,he/she might be wishing if he/she had legs just to help him/her walk faster never mind the pair
of shoes ,for those who are blind also wish they could see like other people do, but fate has not allowed them,this means they must be accepted in the society like any other person you cannot say that so and so is blind or deaf he/she should not be among us because of the disabilty.Its at this point
that the marriage and its ups and downs has taught me lots of things and the two memorable quotes now keep on ringing in my mind (grow up and see what the world has to offer)and(a king who have not encountered any problems in his kingdom has no history to tell).

I am talking about the ups and downs of marriage,keeping in mind that there is also a workmate who is yet to be married and suffering for 14 years and her medication bills run in terms of millions which means she is only working for her health to be good,but she is struggling because she cannot think of any happiness except
for her health compared to my story i find that am very lucky.Thats why i have learnt a lot through the hardship am going through and its my wish to accept and understand my fellow human beings and not dismiss anything that comes across,and its still at this point that i ask myself is this what the world has to offer.?

After the demise of my grandfather i had a friend whose age was almost to my grandfathers whom i used to visit and i still visit to date and truly speaking this man equipt me with many stories which
made me think as if my granpa was still alife since he too gave me very many memorable quotes of which i will be unravelling as we move along.

when i was a student i used to say that the minute i do my exams then i will be a free man there will be no waking up early in the morning and going to school,little did i know that after the
formal education,going to the world you will need lots of amunition to defend yourself e.g good eduaction and experience.while still in the job hunt i used to read newspapers for any openings
funny enough in most of the adverts they will be asking for a certain level of education and an experience of maybe two to three years then i would ask myself ,where in the world would you have gained
this experience when you just left school the other day?these people must be crazy.

After swallowing the bitter pill of the army recruitment lady luck came along and i had a part time job with the then kenya posts and telecommunication co-operation as a casual labourer,as a casual
i encountered some of the difficult manual jobs in which some of my colleagues left due to the hard labour they encountered but on myside grandpa had given me a treasure which kept ringing in my head
so i had to encounter the hard ship thinking may be this could be the offer the world is offering me(the hard labour)after one year of hard labour there came a memo which said all those casual labourers who have stayed
for one year need to forward their names for permanent employment,i was among those who forwarded their names and luckily by 2nd june 1988 i was absorbed as a permanent employee to the rank of technical assistant or in
other words i was a semi skilled worker of the co-operation.

In getting the permanent employment i was overjoyed keeping in mind that now everything will be a bed of roses since i have acquired a permanent employment.After a month of being a permanent employee usually you get a pay check
evrybody got his/her paycheck but mine was not there when asking the relevant offices about this,the reply was that some documents had not reached salaries therefore a voucher had to be prepared for payment
hopping for things to be rectified the following month but that was not to be because the same story kept appearing for one year till the day i said enough is enough i had to incurr costs of travelling to the headquaters which are in
Nairobikenya while seated in the bus on my way to Nairobi the memorable quote kept ringing in my head (grow up and see what the world has to offer)

I said to my self surely the world has a lot to offer but then is this what grandpa was refering to?is the pain the only thing the world has to offer? .It is after this trip to nairobi when the paychecks started trickling in, month after month
but only after surffering for one year all in the name of what the world has to offer.

welcome once again to swabaks blog,first and formost let me introduce myself
well am a kenyan male born 44 years ago in the coastal city of mombasa which is also the second
largest town in kenya.
   During my childhood i liked having penpals from different parts of the world,so that we would exchange
ideas stories and much much more,i believe the passion for making friends is the thing that lead to introducing this
blog today which i hope to communicate to different people so that we can share ideas.

As a child i was very quite and shy in school and in any gathering ,which i would be in, therefore it was very difficult
for me to be noticed but though i was quite and shy i had one thing which was my passion and that is sitting close to my
grandfather and listening to many stories which i liked and treasured very much and i seemed not to be satisfied since i
kept asking  for more and more of the stories,
and my grandpa would only be too happy to tell me the stories as i was a keen listener.

Among the memorable quotes i got from my grandfather he used to tell me(boy, grow up and see what the world has to offer)this quote is
ever ringing in my head and my grandfather has since died am left with the quote which i am still trying to unravel.

After my ordinary level education i stayed at home trying to learn different things including going fishing with my grandpa and learning anything
that i thought to be relevant in mylife,during my job hunt i had an opportunity of going to the army recruitment exercise back in 1984,actually i passed
through all the necessary requirments including medical tests,apptitude test you name it, at around 20:00 pm while still in the examination room hopefull
that in a few hours to come i will be an army recruit,there came an officer well dressed and well displined and shouted my name out,i replied yes sir,he asked me among the
recruiting officers here whom do you know?i said i dont know any of these officers i have just seen them here, he then said to me bad luck for you try  
next time,that was all to eliminate me in the list of recruits,and there was no time to ask why as it is known in the army you just follow orders no questions or arguments.

I went home devastated as it was already dark the time was 21:30 pm,on my way home after this incident the quote which my late grandpa left for me as a treasure came back
ringing in my head and i kept asking myself is this what grandpa really meant when he told me to (grow up and see what the world has to offer)was this one of the worlds offers?
i was supposed to be offered devastation after going through soo much the whole day? This was one of my greatest embarrasments but in my mind i kept saying to myself if this
is the offer my grandpa was refering to then its a bitter offer but then this was just the beggining of the world for me as i had not established what was the world offer, the
 life was just beggining
it was as if i was being told welcome to the world.